Ten years, three kids and a few states later. Hubby and I want to reconnect. There are pieces of us that have inadvertently been lost in the shuffle of life. With three children, family closer then they have been, and a budget that screams due to how tight it is. It isn't always easy to come up with idea's to spice things up a bit. So I admit I did what most people do now, I Googled it. Here are some of the things I found.
- Weekly dates- Once a week do something together without the kids. Hire a babysitter or switch out watching kids with a friend, chances are they need to get out too.
- Dream together- communication is key in any relationship. Talk/listen about each others goals, future plans, current lives, things that make you happy/upset, different ways you love each other, things you would like to work on and things you are grateful for.
- Inspiration ~ Look for things in movies, TV shows, books, magazines.. and of course the internet. Find things that inspire you and put your own twist on it. (Love Dare, romantic lottery cards)
- Forget Valentines. Boycott Valentines Day- it makes people think they have to be romantic on certain occasions throughout the year. Instead do something romantic once a week.
- Write a poem.
- Cook a romantic dinner.
- Give a full body massage (check your local book store for how to books)
- Pack a sunset picnic.
- Pick wild flowers on your way home from work.
- Make a love song CD, or down load a romantic playlist and down load it to their IPod or mp3 player.
- Give dark chocolates
- Read poetry together
- Prepare strawberries and fondue chocolate
- Snuggle together on a rainy day
- Leave love notes everywhere
- Send a love note email daily
- Moonlit walks
- Snuggle while watching romantic movies (here is another list )
- Take a bath together and use bubbles
- A bottle of wine, two glasses and the stars (you may see a shooting one)
- Bring home coffee or a decadent sweet.
- Walk down memory lane
- Warm Chocolate Cake
- Make a scrap book
- Kiss in the rain
- Ride the Ferris wheel
- Sneak away from a party or other gathering and make out.
- Order in and eat in candle light
- Fix something or fix up the house to make them happy
- Slow dance to romantic music
- Take a nap together and just sleep
- Make a list of every thing you like about them
- Kiss slowly touching their back, neck, etc. slowly
- Write and old fashioned love letter (use real paper)
- Go to a movie and make out like teenagers
- Clip or email them things that make you think of them
- Groom yourself.. intentionally look good for your partner
- Take some quiet time each day and just talk to each other about your day
- Write little notes, one for each way that they drive you crazy (put them in a little box and give it as a gift)
- Feed each other grapes
- Recreate your partners favorite romantic movie scene
- Recreate your first date
- Create a thankful box.. with all of your partner's favorite things inside
- Paint each other with flavored body paint (or chocolate and whipped cream).. be creative and have fun
- Sexy role playing
- Give them a token to wear to remind them of you through out their day.
- Sing their favorite song
- Have dinner on the roof (but not if it has a bad angle for it)
- Hold hands and walk under Christmas lights (or any other pretty lights)
- Say I love you in a different way everyday
- Blind fold them and use a feather... slowly
- Declare your love very publicly
- Play Sade and do what comes naturally.. slowly
- Fruit or berries with fresh whipped cream
